Men, Marriage and More

: Boy meets girl, they fall in love. Life looks beautiful, perfect and surprising how easily they met their Ms/Mr Right while he rest of the world is struggling. Boy pampers girl with shopping trips, flowers, chocolates and all. Girl wants to do something special for the boy and goes ahead and tries to cook something sweet n nice for her Mr Right. She cooks, but the end result of course was not as nice as she wanted it to be. She still takes it to the boy. The boy is overwhelmed, thanks her for the efforts she took for him, praises the not so nice dish as if its the best dish he ever tasted and she is the next best cook(after his mom of course!!) he has ever met!


They get married. Honeymoon period

: Newly wed Wife wants to impress her husband by cooking something nice and of his liking. After a lot of effort , she manages to pull out a dish . Husband after  eating(with a straight face), realises he is newly married and needs to praise his wife on her efforts.
Husband: Its nice honey, but may be there was a tad bit extra salt there, but thats ok , am sure you will do it better next time.
Wife encouraged by nice words: Oh sure, I will definitely make it better next time.


Post the honeymoon period, husband and wife settle down in to the regular world, start empathizing with the rest of the world and get in to the daily grind. Whoever said it was all rosy and love would get us through. We still need to eat to live and love.

: Wife cooks still with the same enthu to serve her husband and family something healthy and tasty to eat.(Author of the post being a girl, will give this benefit of doubt to all wives :) ) . Wife serves the food.
Husband(with a straight face) : Just eats. Doesn't say anything.
Wife: How is it?
Husband(With a puzzled straight face on why this question): Yeah, its good.
Wife: Why didnt you tell that before? You tell me its good only after I asked.
Husband: ???

: Wife cooks. Husband eats.
Husband: There is something missing in the dish. Why dont you call my mom or someone before cooking to ask how its done.
Wife(thinking) : I should never have asked him to tell how the dish was, the straight face was so much better to handle.
Sigh!
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Dear Husbands,

A lot of effort goes behind planning, procuring, learning and cooking the dinner that you eat with straight faces. We as wives , do not expect you to thank us everyday for what we do. We do it out of our love for you, to make sure you get to eat something nice and healthy. A little acknowledgement , occassional appreciation from you would make us wives feel all the effort was worth it. Yes, criticism is also welcome, but not that frequently. Remember, its the same effort that goes in to making any dish, good or bad. Its just that sometimes the ratios go bad, it still doesnt mean we put in lesser effort or our intention of serving you tasty food was not there. When you do something, its human to expect a feedback. We are not saying you appreciate us everyday, but you surely will know when there has been an extra effort put in by seeing the dish that was made. Acknowledge/Appreciate before we ASK. trust me, you are only going to see better results by taking that small step. You could apply the same work funda you apply at work, Appreciate and get more work done!!
Yes, we know that men are from Mars and have issues being vocal about their feelings, so to help you out, your acknowledgement/appreciation can come in the below forms too:
1) Smile at us after eating the first bite. We will know.
2) Raise your eyebrows and nod your head, we will be glad.
3) Lick your fingers, we will be happy :)
4) Clean your plate and empty the dish(clear it with rice or roti), we will be delighted.
5) Be a little diplomatic when you criticize, camouflage it coz trust me, a bad remark after all those efforts that you didnt like it, leaves us sulking!
Thats all we want you to do! In your own lil way, tell us you are not taking our efforts for granted and do acknowledge!
Yours lovingly,
Wives


P.S: N, Are you reading this Honey?