When does the career for women actually take off?

Is it me or is there anyone else who thinks women are more driven and ambitious at work? Lately, I have come across so many men who crib and complain about losing their interest at work, not having the purpose to pursue , or just plain bored. I have even come across someone having " Quarter life crisis" ! I wish they could see they have it much much better than the women. Kids have only one thing to pay attention to - studies, and men - work. I would any day trade places with either of them. 

Men cribbing that they do not have the choice to "Not work", who has it btw? Financial independence is now basic. I wish the need for sharing domestic work load evolved at the same pace at which the need for financial independence has evolved. 

There are far and few women in the leadership. Every single time I thought I can completely focus on my career , there was a deflection from personal front , some out of choice, and the rest without. I can't help but look back and see how things could have turned out differently at each of those points if I hadn't had a personal priority screaming at my face. It is tough having to make those choices and make peace with it. Also inevitable to compare yourself to the peers you started off your career with. I know to each their own, but it still hurts. 

I am super proud I sustained through all those moments when I had to choose, I figured my way out, deprioritized and reprioritized work but kept it going. I had to work extra hard for it to turn out the way it did. For all the work I put in, its super precious for me. I want to be able to give my best to what I have carved out for myself but there still are those deflection points that crop up every now and then. You should be at your physical and mental best to be able to perform at your peak capacity at work. How can you achieve that with so many nagging issues back of your mind? Tantrumy teenagers, ageing parents, health issues of self, harmonal changes, burn out, stress .. just too many things screaming for attention demand you keep work on back burner. 

I need a block of 3 years, where I can focus just on work, with everything else streamlined, everyone taken care of and I can give my best to work, tick off my work bucket list. Is it too much to ask?

We are back!

 I am glad I found this page again!! What you seek is indeed seeking you back. 

So we moved on to 40s. 

Today's state : 

I know I will feel better if I dance

I can dance only if I feel a little better

Should I attend the class or skip it and sulk further? 

Decided to silence all voices in the mind and just attend the class. Fck(this is cas in 40s) everything else. 

2015 : Yayy

My last post was on June 4th , 2015. Life after that had been crazy busy and lovely.
Its been an year of targets, milestones, giggles and love.


It's been a landmark year in terms of getting life back on track, chasing my fitness goals and bringing up the little bundle of joy. Career did take a back seat but not the learning. Worked on building an android app (cool learning) and trained on/in Hadoop.


2016 is a year that backs-up everything beautiful that started in 2015, first 10K run (Pinkathon , 31st January) , back to work, more in Hadoop , spread to Android, more milestones for lil one and the older one.


Bring it on life! in full force!

Snigdha : 5 Months

1) Tries to sit up in the bouncer.
2) Loves to be carried and demands to be carried.
3) Loves her evening walk time in the pram.
4) Loves listening to music.
5) Early morning activity : Sit on granpa's tummy and play with his rudraksha chain.
6) Started cooing loudly.
7) Recognizes faces and shows preferences.
8) Rolling over multiples and rolling back.
9) Her first fall from bed! Didn't cry much but was scared.
10) Ears got pierced. Cried along with mommy and Ms A.

Snigdha : 4 months

!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Rolled over !!!!!!!!!!!!!! on April 2nd.
1) Started reaching out for toys. Everything needs to be tasted/licked :)
2) Her very first flight journey to granny's place. (April 3). Very well behaved, but pooped a lot(about 6 times)  through out the journey. Mommy ran out of diapers!
3) Took time to adjust in the new place and weather. Missed daddy.
4) Couple of visits to temples and vizag beach.
5) Smiles at everyone who says hello to her.
6) Loves playing in the play gym.
7)Total attention seeker. Loves play time with her sister A

Snigdha : Month 3

Smiles give way to little giggles.
Tries to move forward during tummy time.
Started to enjoy bath time except for head bath.
Talks a lot in her own sweet language.
Peeps between feeds and gives adorable smiles.
Loves being talked to, responds.
Loves play time with Daddy
Neck is set,  shakes occasionally like shammi :)



Mommy is totally head over heels in love with Sniggy pie. Her innocent smiles, her unconditional love, her cries, her coos, her twinkling eyes .. she just melts mommy with her "I know you, I love you" looks.

 

Snigdha : Month 2

Lovely cute Social smiles
Sleeps better
Feeds better
Recognizes faces and voices and responds
Keeps moving her lil hands and legs all day while watching her merry go round toy with Brahms lullaby.
Loves her bouncer
Cried a lot on the vaccination day
Hates bath time
 

Snigdha Month 1

Snigdha : Month 1


Loves to hear to songs
Tried to crawl on daddy with support
Rolled on to her tummy once
smiles and laughs in sleep
Tries to suck her wrist when hungry