I want all the girls out there to honestly answer if they are really happy being a girl! I dont want to sound outrageous or hurt anyone's sentiments.. just a simple question to be taken just that way!
Till date I've never really taken pride or enjoyed being a girl. I always felt life would've been so much more fun if I was a boy! Boys have these subtle natual advantages over girls.. the way they enjoy their time at beach, bike drives with frens, late nights and to put it in one word.. a much more independent secure life! With the natural disadvantages physically girls as I see can never be that independent and given the society we live in (yeah they say its changing.. but when?) they make it all the more difficult. There are this outrageous expectations that are forced on girls not to forget the restrictions too!
One of my friends father was looking for an alliance for her. They came across this guy's profile and like all details and decided to set up a family meet and the boy meet girl drama.
The whole thing went fairly smoothly and the guy's family left. My friends father asked her if she liked the guy and she said am ok with it, but am not sure they will come back. And as she expectd, the guy's family came back saying, the guy found the girl too fast and they would not go ahead with the proposal. Her dad was obviously not very happy and came back and asked her what she spoke with the guy that he felt she was fast. Then she told this.. "The guy had said that he drinks occassionally.. not vey often. only during office parties. And I said same with me.. "
It's just not about that particular guys family.. its with every other family.. they want a girl who is beautiful (read fair) , highly educated, earning well, rich by default, has no brothers, good family background, well mannered, soft spoken, homely, being a cook and a good home maker come by default and yeah mingle completely with guy's family.. what all bull shit! Another outrageous addition to this list.. should continue working even after having a baby!!
and a girl who has all these qualities should'nt mind even if the guy is dark, short, baldy, drinks/ smokes occassionally and god knows from which Goddamn college he got his degree certificate!
When will people actually practise the equality between boys and girls. Why does a guy's family suddenly get all horns on their heads by the time they start looking for a girl for him? Why dont they understand that marriage is a mutual understanding and guy needs girl as much as the girl needs the guy for support and companionship for life.
I think the guys and girls of this generation should try and bring in the much required attitude and change in the way of thinking of our previous generation. As long as we are ready to become the bakras and witness the melodrama happening around us.. God save this country!
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andhukae America vaccheyyu.. hehe.. mandae debba meedha kaaram..
The same old story of the grass being green on the other side!!! While on the lookout for a suitable match, show me one girl who is ready to compromise on the qualities that you listed below? (replace girl with guy)
"It's just not about that particular guys family.. its with every other family.. they want a girl who is beautiful (read fair) , highly educated, earning well, rich by default, has no brothers, good family background, well mannered, soft spoken, homely, being a cook and a good home maker come by default and yeah mingle completely with guy's family.. what all bull shit"
Add to the list - a fat salary cheque, a sedan, big home etc, etc. There is nothing wrong in craving for the best. Whether its a guy or a girl, the problem lies in the hypocrisy traits..I drink, but I dont want my wife to drink.. I want my wife to accept my family members, but I dont want to accept her family members....and the list goes on.
I agree that there is still disparity between boys and girls in this country, but where does the fault lie? Even now, girls in this country still prefer a son. They dont get along well with their friends, DILs, MILs and SILs. They are their own enemies. If they are not proud of themselves, how can they expect others to respect them? Well..the attitude has to change. But unless we take the first step, nobody is going to notice us.
I agree that there is nothing wrong in asking for the best but I still strongly feel the grass is more greener on the boys side!
It takes a girl to take the immense pressure of expectations from the family to give birth to a baby boy! For the girl it takes the same efort , if its a baby boy or girl, but its heartbreaking to see the dissappointment the family shows the moment they know its a baby girl, someone who cannot take the family name forward! Huh!
No girl would want to see their lil darling being accepted with such resignation and given her the sympathetic looks! Nobody wants to understand the science that its the guy's chromosomes which determines the gender of the baby!
If a girl is not being able to gel well with the mil, dil and sil, its again the attitude and the expectations problem. A MIL can never treat her Dil with the same affection as she does to her dughter! and a Girl can never treat a MIl like a mother who wouldve behaved like a money minter with her parents and made a fuss abt the small things in the marriage arrangement. A guy no matter how he behaves is treated as God by his in laws but its not the case with girls!
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